Look up “family values” in Wikipedia and it starts like this…
“Family values are political and social beliefs that hold the Nuclear family to be the essential ethical and moral unit of society. […]”
I grew up in a family with little interest and discussion about religion nor politics.
In fact, my grandparents (father’s side) are farmers, and my father had his fair share of the farming work in the rice patties and grape fields – even I had my fair share of fun as a boy.
Then I got a little older and moved away from the farming life to the big city life where schools in Taiwan taught you a lot of Confucius beliefs.
One of the “virtues” that was instilled in us is “filial piety”, where Wikipedia puts it elegantly…
In short, I was taught to pay utmost respect for my parents and elderly. To me, that means no yelling and talking back to parents, obey the “family rules”, and just plain be obedient, period. Oh, and showing up at dinner table at dinner time, plus doing all the dishes and among other chores.
Nowadays, try indoctrinate that virtue in your kids. Good luck! ‘Cause you’ll need it.
Being a new parent myself, I’m both excited and scared. I’m excited because I get to see my kids grow up and it is almost like seeing yourself grow up, for a second time. It gives you this sense of pride and power knowing that you can and will mold a child exactly the way you want him or her to take shape.
Yet, I’m fearful that I simply do not what my influence has on my children – will they turn out “good”, “bad” or “ugly”? What religion will they believe in? What political party will they join? What careers will they have, and most importantly, what kind of “family values” will they teach my grandchildren (oh wait, that’s if they believe in having kids!)?
I’m fearful, “What if my kids don’t have the same values as I do?”
Do I tell myself, “So be it” or do I fight harder to mold them?
What if the way I’m bringing them up gives them a social disadvantage because they are too “obedient” in this practical, self-serving, dog-eat-dog world?
Have you ever thought about any of these? Or am I too overly worried?
Am I doing the right thing here?
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