Our nurturing and protective instinct kicks into overdrive after our child is born. From a child’s first step to his first attempt to ride a bicycle, we have rightfully secured a spot close by. More than just witnessing a child’s milestones, parents hover just to make sure that bruised and scraped knees can be avoided. Of course, parents would never dare take risks especially when it involves a child’s safety.
As much as we want to shield our kids from the harsh realities of this life, it is practically impossible to protect them from it all. At some point, a child will definitely experience feelings of fear, rejection, failure, disappointment, pain, and other negative emotions, which can greatly affect their perception of the world in general. As kids grow older, they get to realize that life is really no fairy tale after all.
If a child is hurt, it is only normal for us to feel the pain tenfold. When they are heartbroken, our hearts also shatter to a million pieces. It can be easy to give in to these overwhelming emotions when you also experience firsthand the things that your kids are going through. When you witness your child being picked on at a play area, do you instinctively come to his rescue and fight his battle for him? When you learn that your child is not treated well by other kids in his school, do you immediately approach his teacher to settle the issue?
Many parents are guilty of being too overprotective to their kids. Instead of waiting out to allow the child to fight his own battles, many parents immediately react in haste to protect a child. There is absolutely nothing wrong with our intention to protect our kids, but when we do this to a fault, we are already depriving our kids of learning essential life skills.
Although we only want the best for our kids, our efforts in preparing them for the future may be futile if we don’t give them the chance to do things by themselves. An overprotected child may not have the opportunity to improve his coping skills, and he may never learn how to pick up the pieces and start again after experiencing failure. Life is a two-way street, there are times that you reap the rewards of your labor through success, but there are also times that your efforts will not be fruitful despite your hard work.
It is then vital that you allow your kids to experience life as it is –full of trials and flaws. When they are left to confront certain situations by themselves, they will learn how to deal with similar situations in the future. Teach your kids that negative life experiences are not meant to destroy one’s character. They actually come with valuable life lessons that could never be learned elsewhere.
Thus, parents should learn how to positively respond to certain situations involving their child’s welfare. Don’t hesitate to step in during instances when your child’s safety may be at risk. On other circumstances, stay supportive but allow your child to fight his own battles. If you let go to some extent, you are actually doing your child a favor by allowing him to develop essential coping skills.
By giving kids the opportunity to test waters and to go through varied life experiences, you are preparing them for the time when they would have to run their own lives. If you can deal with your overprotective nature, you are guaranteed that your child can make it anywhere.
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