Watching over the kids, cleaning the house, and cooking meals are just among the few things that many stay at home moms do for most days of the week. The responsibility of keeping a home and raising kids may sound so routinary or even manageable, but it in truth it can be quite demanding. Many stay at home parents have so little time for themselves because they are so preoccupied with a plethora of things to do at home.
If you feel that your days have become such a tiresome routine, some adjustments may be necessary so that you will enjoy what you are doing. Here are some tips on how to survive being a full time mom:
1. Make time for yourself.
It’s easy to forget yourself when you have so have so much on your plate, but don’t fall into this trap because if you don’t pay attention to your needs, you can turn into the most unhappy and tired mom in record breaking time. Make time for regular exercise even if it means waking up a few minutes before everyone’s alarm rings. Regular exercise can give you plenty of extra energy throughout the day — just the boost that you need to make your days more productive. When the kids take their afternoon naps, do not touch the dishes, but instead take the time to do things for yourself. Always remember that ME time should only be about YOU.
It’s understandable to skip on some family gatherings and get-togethers with friends when your baby is still an infant. But do not live in isolation for too long because you also need time away from all the responsibilities at home. Isolation can lead to loneliness, and with your always busy schedule, it can get really overwhelming. Don’t feel guilty if you have to spend time away from your kids because you clearly deserve a break. Leave the kids at the daycare for an hour or two and spend time with old friends. You may even set play dates so you could let the kids play while you share tips and stories with other parents. If you plan to return to work later on, getting in touch with other colleagues will give you an opportunity to learn about up to date information related to your field of work.
3. Stay organized.
As you become accustomed to your role as a full time mom, you will be able to develop a system on how you can do things more easily. Plan meals, delegate tasks, and create daily goals so that you can be more productive. When at home, you will never run out of things to do and before you realize it, you no longer have enough time to do the things that you needed to accomplish for the day. If you can just stick to your schedule, you will have plenty of time to do other things.
4. Find money making opportunities that you can do at home.
Many full time moms have learned to make extra money by doing some online work, or by setting up a small business at home. Perhaps it’s time to pursue your passion for creating accessories and selling them online, or maybe you could start creating your own blog and monetizing it. However, it’s important to think about how much time and effort you are able to allocate on the project. Choose something that you enjoy doing so that it won’t feel like it’s an added burden to your already hectic days. And don’t worry about not earning a lot because the sense of accomplishment that you can get out of it can compensate for your lack of income.
5. Make the most out of your situation.
It’s easy to take things for granted when you are just so used to the routine. But your kids will never be kids again, so cherish every moment that you are with them. Do activities together, and create happy memories so that you will have plenty of happy thoughts to look back to when you get back to the workforce.
6. Set realistic expectations.
Do your best, and don’t live up to the expectations of others. Being a full time mom is no easy task so trust your instincts and be guided by love. Don’t be too hard on yourself by being a supermom because we are not perfect individuals and we also need the help of others to keep things going.
What are your biggest struggles as a full time mom? How do you cope when everything is just not working your way?